Love n relationship

Firman CG kemarin... dr ko Ted...kutambahi opini...
ada gbr kesaksian c Cella n ko DM jg..

Cinta itu penguasaan diri n tdk cemburu, sabar n slg menerima.
Tdk melakukan hal tdk sopan.
Asmara itu tdk sabar n hawa nafsu.
Cinta slg jaga kekudusan.
Jgn beri barang2 mahal sblm pacaran.murah gpp klo pas ada event..wkwk..asalkan tulus, ga berharap..

Seks dr Tuhan jd kudus, hrs dlm pernikahan.
Jauhi godaan seks+Pornografi.
1 Yoh 1:9 akui dosa

Pacaran bangun hub. Utk pertunangan n pernikahan, bukan coba2.
Mengenal byk org sblm pacaran. Wkt pacaran, jgn tebar2 pesona. Pengenalan jg bukan tebar2 pesona, tp berteman scr sehat..beramai2 n seperlunya, tdk terlalu sering.

Sulit dpt pacar krn:
1. Standar tdk realistis

Standar Mutlak/wajib smuanya
-lahir baru
-cinta Tuhan (gbr diri pulih)
-sepadan

Tdk mutlak
-budaya
-kebiasaan
-suku

2. Blm siap meninggalkan keluarga, blm pny inner beauty, byk khawatir
Jgn mau dgn pria yg gaje.
Pria hrs pny visi. Mau dibawa k mn hubungan itu?

Pacaran jgn terlalu eksklusif. Perlu komunikasi terbuka, tp jg perlu beramai2. Jgn sampai ga pny temen2 gara2 keasikan berdua terus.Komunitas itu penting.

Dlm pacaran belajar:
Kenal lebih ttg kebiasaan, sifat n kepribadian.
Komunikasi
Menerima
Buka diri n hati, jujur.
Percaya

2 tim 2:22
Titus 2:6

Tdk boleh:
Pegangan n pelukan
Kissing ciuman
Petting meraba2
ML bersegama

3 tanda jodoh dr Tuhan
1.Iman yg sejati pd Tuhan
Penerimaan d keluarga, kerapian, nilai diri sehat.

2.Tuhan yg mendominasi pertemuan 2 insan.
Bukan org itu sengaja cari2 n kenalan2 sm byk lawan jenis yg cakep tiap hari (kyk org kurang kerjaan), tp fokus pd Tuhan, trus  didekatkan gtu sm Tuhan seiring berjlnnya wkt..

3.Slg mencintai n menerima apa adanya dia plus keluarganya.
Marry your bestfriend. 

Tantangan dlm relationship:
Restu ortu
Beda suku, adat, prinsip
Sosial n pendidikan

Hrs ada restu. Hrs berjuang. Tuhan akan menolong jika dia org yg tepat.
Jika bukan Tuhan yg bangun rumah, sia2lah semua. Jd hrs minta petunjuk Tuhan sebelum mulai.

Belajar menyemangati orang terluka

Org2 ini merasakan pukulan mental yg berat..
Saat mereka patah hati ditinggalkan pacar..
Waktu mereka tdk lulus ujian di masa kuliah..
Ketika mereka stres dan terjerat narkoba..
Dll..
Byk org yg memandang remeh, bahkan mungkin menjauhi..
Tp ada seorang bpk yg mau peduli dgn mendirikan panti rehabilitasi..bahkan menjual perhiasan istrinya saat tdk ada donatur..
Kita semua pernah terluka..tp maukah kita tdk memusingkan luka sendiri dan menolong org2 lain yg terluka? Menyemangati bhw msh ada secercah terang n harapan?
Berkat itu buat dibagi2..bukan buat dinikmati sendiri...
Orang yg terluka pny hak utk hidup dan dikasihi...
😀😃
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Aku merasa ini coxok banget dengan ayat ini..
Murid yang menyemangati orang terluka...
Yesaya 50:4 (TB)  Tuhan ALLAH telah memberikan kepadaku lidah seorang murid, supaya dengan perkataan aku dapat memberi semangat baru kepada orang yang letih lesu. Setiap pagi Ia mempertajam pendengaranku untuk mendengar seperti seorang murid.
Isaiah 50:4 (NET)  The sovereign Lord has given me the capacity to be his spokesman, so that I know how to help the weary. He wakes me up every morning; he makes me alert so I can listen attentively as disciples do.

Terkadang...

Terkadang... aku merasa apa aku kurang penting..
Aku bertanya ttg 1 tempat..ke bbrp orang..
Tapi WA ku dibalasnya cm singkat 1 kalimat doank..bahkan ada yg ga dibalas..
sedih..
Dan malah ada 1 orang yg minta jangan terlalu pusing krn belum menjalani..
Bukannya aku pusing sih, cuma mempertimbangkan plus minus d tempat lain..
Tdk salah menurutku jika cermat.

Meski begitu, aku bersyukur ada 1 sahabat lama yg peduli dan mau menjelaskan banyak..
Aku juga bersyukur ada 1 teman yg baru kukenal..
Dia menjelaskan panjang lebar n ksh masukan..bahkan difoto..
Lucu sih..hehe..
Terus pakai menyemangati juga..
Semoga aku bs jd org spt dia, yg ramah dan bersahabat..selalu menyemangati..
semoga makin byk org yg peduli gitu..
Ya menurutku menghargai saat org bertanya itu penting sih..
Meskipun harga diri orang ga dibangun atas dasar jawaban org, tp atas anugerah Tuhan.. Soalnya kasih itu ditunjukkan dgn perbuatan, bukan cm kata2 doank gitu..
Inilah opiniku..:-D

Bgmn Mengerti kehendak Allah?

Yer 29:11
Allah pny rencana
Mzm 32:8
Tuhan ingin memberitahu ttg kehendak Nya n bgmn mencapai
Menentukan sukacita

Jk tdk hdp sesuai panggilan, akan kosong n sia2, spt buang2 wkt.

Pahami rencana Allah dlm hdp org percaya
3 rencana umum:
1. 2 Ptr 3:18
Makin mengenal Allah
2. Rm 8:29
Serupa watak Kristus
3. Mat 28:19-20
Amanat Agung n bersaksi

Pikirkan ttg pilihan itu:
Bertumbuh
Hdp efektif
Bakat minat
Panggilan khusus
Tuhan bicara scr khusus lwt firman2 Nya misalnya janji2
Keadaan khusus

Filipi 1
Paulus tdk mau dikurung tp bs PI di penjara

Suara2 khusus
Diskusikan dgn pembimbing rohani n org2 dewasa
Panggilan
Bicara scr khusus lwt Firman Tuhan
Org lain spt nasihat n nubuat
Tiap pagi doa n menulis suara Tuhan misalnya selama 1 bln, hrs diuji.

Sumber dr siaran tiap senin jm 8-9 mlm di www.jogjastreamers.com..immanuel radio solo 94,3 fm or 846 am..

Healing of a broken heart

A modern day Ruth FB page

I kept waiting night after night for his truck to pull into the driveway. I slept in his t-shirt just to keep his scent near me. My days were blurred in a thick foggy haze. I barely slept, I barely ate, I lost the desire to live. I was truly heartsick. I can still remember my teenage son's voice saying, "Mama...don't you think it's time you slept upstairs in your bed again?" I felt so lost. I told myself he would come back; that somehow his truck had broken down and that he wasn't able to call. I tried to reason with my heart that he wasn't really gone; that he would be back. I was completely heartsick. I never really fully understood what the words meant when someone said their heart was broken. Oh, the sure pain of it -now...so surreal. I don't take those words for granted anymore. I have learned to pray, comfort, listen and hold someone's hand when they say those words. I am so eternally grateful for Poppa God walking me through that difficult time in my life. He truly healed that shattered broken heart, and then He gave me a purpose -even a rare beauty out of what was meant to destroy me. It's been several years now and those memories have faded, but I have not forgotten. What should you do when your heart is broken? Here are some things that helped me through that painful season:

* If someone has left you, don't beg and plead for them to stay or come back. The best advice my grandmother gave me was: "If a man wants to walk, let him walk."  Begging, pleading, crying, manipulating, or pining for them to stay will only prolong your pain and suffering and that of your children. If someone wants to stay they will do it out of their own free will. You can't force someone to love you or to be faithful to you. Love is a choice, so let them choose. I know it hurts. I know you can't imagine your life without them, but you have to let them decide on their own.

* Decide and determine in your heart that you will hold onto God no matter what. It's not His fault that a human you loved disappointed you. Cling to His promise that He will never leave you or forsake you. Cry out to Him. Pray. Choose to read His word, stay in church. Even if you feel like your world is falling apart remember that you are in the palm of His hand and He will carry you. He is closer than a brother and a friend at all times. Let Him hold you and comfort you. He can handle your pain and your tears. Life may not make sense right now but life will get better again. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy will come in the morning.

* Reach out to someone you can trust; a prayer partner, a best friend, a pastor or mentor. Let them know what's going on. A true friend will care and be there for you during difficult times. Don't allow the lies of the enemy to tell you that you have to go through this alone. You need help during this time and it's okay to admit that. Ask others to pray for your strength, peace of mind, healing in your heart to take place.

* Remember to take care of your body. When you go through heartache your overwhelming feelings invade you and you may forget to eat. Your appetite may be completely gone. Choose to at least eat some protein and drink water daily to keep yourself  hydrated.

* Choose to live life. You probably want to stay in bed all day and do absolutely nothing. Force yourself to get up and get out of the house. Go for walks, see a movie with a friend, grab coffee and read the Word. I know it feels like your life is void and empty, but whatever you do, do not stop living. If you were happy before this person came into your life, you can be happy again without them. It will just take time.

* In the moments when you are completely overwhelmed by the grief and surges of feelings, have a friend you can call or text so they can pray for you. Sometimes the pain in your heart will feel like a sneaker tidal wave. You may feel completely like your drowning, but imagine yourself holding onto God's hand. He is right beside you and He will not let you be consumed. He is your anchor during the storm. Allow yourself to feel the pain and remind yourself that these feelings are temporary and they will pass. Breathe.

* Take time to reflect. You can't do a thing about the person who broke your heart, but you can reflect and think about what you could do differently. Listen to God's voice and be honest with yourself. It's a healthy approach to admit your mistakes and to glean wisdom from them. Ask God to show you what was unhealthy about the relationship. The truth sets us free. Don't beat yourself up though and do not condemn yourself. Don't blame yourself for everything either. It takes two people to have a relationship. Everyone has something they can do better and things to work on.

* Determine in your heart that you will forgive the person who hurt you. It doesn't mean you don't feel the pain anymore. It doesn't mean you are letting them off the hook -it means letting God deal with them. It means that you choose to walk in God's love. He can deal with people's hearts better than we can ourselves. I know it hurts. I know you're angry. I know you feel betrayed. It's okay to feel these feelings, but make the decision to forgive them. Ask God to help you in this. God can handle your feelings. Forgiveness is not a feeling but a decision.

* Do not choose to date or get involved in another romantic relationship until a lengthy time has passed. It's the worst mistake you can make. To start dating while your heart is broken is like walking around with a broken foot on novocaine. When the numbness wears off you will hurt even more. The damage will be greater. A second heartache is worse than first. Trust me -I know. Just because you feel better does not mean you are completely healed and ready for a relationship. Healing of a broken heart takes time. It's a process. God is a gentlemen and He heals our hearts one layer at a time, like an onion. Do yourself and the other person a favor -guard your heart. Get healthy first.

* Do special things for you. You are worth it. Go for walks, exercise, get a pedicure. Pamper yourself. Pamper a girlfriend. Do something kind for a neighbor. Do things that are stress relieving. Comfort yourself by surrounding yourself with good people and good atmosphere. Buy candles. Try a new hobby. Join a choir. Do it for you.

* Remember that tears are part of the process. It doesn't mean you are going backwards. A memory, a song or a smell might trigger feelings of the person who left you. Allow yourself to feel the pain and then move forward. Tears are cleansing, they're part of how God designed us to heal. He cares about you and the tears that fall on your pillow at night. So much that He actually records them in heaven.

* Avoid seeking comfort from places and things that will only temporarily numb your pain. Stay away from alcohol, drugs, sex outside of marriage, online dating services, or people who are a bad influence. All these things may feel good for a while, but your life will end up in destruction. Seek comfort from Jesus, His word, your friends, church, etc. Anything that is good, pure, lovely -think on those things.

* Know and remember that your pain and broken relationship are not your identity. You are lovable. You are a child of God. Nothing you can do can separate you from His unfailing love for you. He loves you right where you're at. Your mess is not who you are. Just because someone stopped loving you does not mean that you are unlovable. That is a huge lie of the enemy to try to destroy your confidence and self esteem.

Praying for you, Dear one. God is with you in this season. Love will bloom again on the branches of your heart. Written by Jenny Williams, Ruby Wives. Copyright 2013. All rights reserved. Please feel free to share for encouragement purposes. All scriptures are taken from the  NIV Bible Version.
Psalm 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Hebrews 13:5
“Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

Psalm 51:17
My sacrifice, O God, is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart you, God, will not despise.

When God Says No…

When God Says No…
http://waitingforyourboaz.com

12 / 2 / 16

We know Gods Word says that if ask it will be given to us, if we knock, we shall find. But what happens when the answer is not what we want to hear? What if we long for something so much, but God says no? I think that could be one of the most heart-breaking things.

God is a good God and in His Word He states that He delights in giving us the desires of our hearts. And sometimes we ask and ask for a specific thing and in our minds we believe that will make us happy and that is what we need. But God, as our father, sees beyond what we can see, and because he loves us so much, there will be times that he will say no.

My one-year-old daughter has entered that very curious stage of wanting to see and touch everything. She loves to watch me cook. At times I would carry her on one arm and cook with the other. One day she was so into what I was cooking that she really wanted to stick her hand in the pot of spaghetti. In her mind it looked so cool and she really wanted to touch it. When I said no and moved her away from it, she cried and cried. But what she didn’t know was that I wasn’t saying no because I wanted to be mean, but it was because I wanted to prevent her from getting burned!

God is the same way! When he says no it’s not because He wants to be mean, but instead, he is protecting us from something that could potentially harm us.

So today I challenge you to TRUST God even when the answer is no. To TRUST God even when you do not understand what is going on around you. TRUST God even in the midst of confusion and pain. Because in due time you will see His hand and look back and the time He said no… and in that moment you will thank Him; Because He was just loving you and protecting you all along.

Dipulihkan Karena Doa

Dipulihkan Karena Doa

http://www.warungsatekamu.org

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Oleh Katarina Tathya Ratri, Jakarta

Hari itu adalah hari terakhir di tahun 2011 ketika aku berjalan menyusuri jalanan di kota kecil tempat kelahiranku. Berbeda dari malam tahun baru sebelumnya yang aku lewati dengan berhura-hura, hari itu aku berjalan sendirian tanpa tujuan yang jelas. Aku tak peduli dengan orang-orang yang memadati jalanan untuk melihat kembang api, aku hanya ingin sesuatu yang berbeda untuk melewatkan tahun baru.

Langkah kakiku terhenti di depan sebuah jalan kecil yang menuju sebuah gereja. Hati kecilku bicara supaya aku melangkah ke dalam gereja itu. Tapi, aku merasa enggan karena itu bukan gereja yang pernah kusinggahi sebelumnya. Lagipula sejak duduk di bangku SMP, aku jarang pergi beribadah ke gereja. Namun, suara hatiku semakin keras dan aku memutuskan masuk ke dalam gereja itu.

Ketika aku tiba di dalam gereja, satu hal yang kuingat adalah berdoa. Sudah lama aku tidak berdoa, dan malam itu aku mau kembali berdoa. Kupejamkan mata dan mengarahkan hati kepada hadirat-Nya. Aku merasakan damai yang melingkupi hatiku dan tak mampu kujelaskan dengan kata-kata. Malam itu aku berdoa dengan khusyuk karena aku begitu rindu untuk bertemu Sang Pencipta.

Aku percaya bahwa rasa damai yang melingkupiku waktu itu mengingatkanku kalau Tuhan ingin aku kembali pada-Nya. Dalam keheningan itu aku menyadari kalau selama ini aku menganggap doa hanya sebagai kewajiban saja sehingga aku tidak memiliki kerinduan untuk melakukannya.

Doa yang kunaikkan malam itu mengubahkan hidupku. Selama ini aku mencari pelarian dari situasi rumah yang membuatku muak. Aku pergi bersama teman-teman untuk merokok, menonton video porno, hingga pulang larut malam. Hari itu Tuhan menegurku untuk kembali pada-Nya. Lewat doa, aku mengucap janji untuk berbalik pada-Nya dan meninggalkan cara hidupku yang lama.

Aku berusaha menjaga komitmenku untuk setia pada Tuhan walaupun godaan untuk kembali ke kehidupan yang lama terus datang. Setiap hari aku terus berdoa pada-Nya memohon kekuatan, dan seiring berjalannya waktu aku menjadi semakin senang berdoa. Doa adalah nafas hidupku sehingga aku akan merasa sesak jika aku melewatkannya.

Setiap kali aku berdoa, aku tidak hanya melaporkan pada-Nya masalah-masalah yang kualami, tapi lebih dari sekadar melapor, aku mendiskusikan masalahku dengan Tuhan, mengucap syukur atas pemeliharaan-Nya, dan berdoa juga untuk orang-orang lain. Aku percaya kalau Tuhan maha mengetahui, tapi aku merasa perlu untuk mengungkapkan isi hatiku kepada-Nya supaya hati dan cara pikirku berubah sesuai dengan kehendak Tuhan.

Komitmenku untuk meninggalkan cara hidup yang lama seringkali membuatku khawatir. Aku takut jika harus kehilangan teman-teman sepermainan, tapi firman Tuhan dalam Filipi 4:6-7 mengingatkanku, “Janganlah hendaknya kamu kuatir tentang apa pun juga, tetapi nyatakanlah dalam segala hal keinginanmu kepada Allah dalam doa dan permohonan dengan ucapan syukur. Damai sejahtera Allah, yang melampaui segala akal, akan memelihara hati dan pikiranmu dalam Kristus Yesus.”

Aku mengalami sendiri bagaimana damai sejahtera Tuhan turun atas diriku. Ketika aku harus menghadapi ujian sidang skripsi, aku sangat takut karena ada mahasiswa sebelumku yang dinyatakan gagal. Aku khawatir kalau-kalau aku akan dinyatakan gagal juga. Alih-alih rasa khawatir semakin menguasai diriku, aku berdoa dan mengucap syukur atas proses yang bisa kulalui. Damai sejahtera Tuhan memenuhiku, dan aku yakin kalau Tuhan akan memberikan yang terbaik untuk studiku.

Sejatinya, bukan Tuhanlah yang membutuhkan doa kita, tetapi kita yang butuh berdoa kepada Tuhan. Apapun kekhawatiranmu, ungkapkanlah kepada-Nya, sebab ada tertulis, “Serahkanlah segala kekuatiranmu kepada-Nya, sebab Ia yang memelihara kamu” (1 Petrus 5:7).